Okay, so this is the question that's most often asked when couples find themselves arguing after one, or both, members of the couple do something to lose the other person's trust. The one person wants the other to trust them again, and may get irritated because the partner refuses to do this, while the other person can't help but not trust their partner because of the hurt their actions have caused. Typically, this comes about after an affair, but not always. One member may have done something that made the other person feel bad, like watching porn, viewing a dating website (even if they didn't sign up, but why were they there in the first place?), or lied about something and got caught. It's hard to rebuild trust, and really it should be. Yes, it's going to take time. Yes, your partner is going to question everything you do for a while, and you really need to be supportive of them in this because it is one of the only ways to get the relationship back on track from the pain that your actions caused.
Now, if you're the person that's been hurt, here are some suggestions for you. Yes, it's going to be hard to trust them again; however, if you vow never trust them again, you are going to doom the relationship. Let them rebuild the trust, help them do things, and sit down and talk about both of their feelings. Don't blame yourself, but try to understand what led them to hurt you in the way they did. Try to help them fix that problem and rebuild your relationship one small step at a time.
Also, if you find yourself in this situation, it is probably time to get some counseling advice. So, try to find a local counselor, pastor, or other professional that is best suited to help you. Yes, neither of you may want to go this route because you may feel its embarrassing; however, sessions are kept private (it's the law) and these people are professionally trained to help you work through your issues. Good luck and let me know in the comments if this post has helped you.
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Monday, June 11, 2012
Welcome to the Love Me Knot
Welcome to the Love Me Knot. This is the first post of what I hope to be many. In this first post, we will go over several things about this new blog. The blog is a relationship advice/help blog. I will post on many topics and will take questions from readers. The blog is NOT meant to be the cure-all for relationship issues; if you are having serious relationship/marriage issues, then a counselor is the best bet for you. I am not a licensed counselor. This blog does not provide medical or mental health advice. I'm not a licensed doctor or licensed mental health professional. Now, let's go on to what I am. I am married and have been happily married for several years. I have a Bachelor of Arts Degree in Psychology and I'm planning on getting my Master's in Psychology with a specialization in Marriage and Family Therapy. Finally, a full disclosure so I'm not violating any laws: The author of this blog is a participant in the Amazon Services LLC Associates
Program, an affiliate advertising program designed to provide a means
for sites to earn advertising fees by advertising and linking to Amazon.com. I am also a member of ClickBank, Commission Junction, and other affiliate programs. If you click a link from this blog, assume that I may make some sort of profit from that click or order form submittal.
Okay, now that I got that out of the way, let's get ready to have some fun. This should be a pretty wild ride.
-Psychmaster
Okay, now that I got that out of the way, let's get ready to have some fun. This should be a pretty wild ride.
-Psychmaster
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